Years ago I read an article that I checked. I do not remember the author (memory is not my thing) but his message struck a chord me and invited me to make one of those thoughts that go on for years and eventually end up becoming one of the many threads that guide our everyday actions.
So to start, and I do not remember his name, at least I want to thank this person how much you gave me your nice article.
In the text the author talked about his childhood and youth and how he felt privileged because his mother always said goodbye to him, saying: "have fun" instead of "be careful" or "carry on well." The speech was what he was saying that he deeply appreciated the fact his mother was not prompt him to grow up in fear, specifically fear of being happy and that these "Have fun" over the years incorporated as part of itself and long after, mature, considered a person capable of facing challenges with optimism. He thought of his attitude to life he owed to "pass it along" with his mother showered her childhood.
The attitude and words that speak volumes about her mother and also contain in themselves all a rebellion against the established "that the child never guessed, but the adult self-and above all, an absolute confidence in the son he had. I imagine that those words also were accompanied by many other small gestures and everyday treatments that fed on his son what was later a good self-esteem and attitude towards life clean and brave.
When you farewell with a "Have fun" at the door of the school, grandma's house or at a birthday party full of kids .. It indicates the possibility of enjoyment of any experience over the fear that something happens to the child or "misbehaves."
In fact, when an alert with a "Be good" seems she was taking for granted, so prophetic unfairly, that "misbehaving" is the most likely outcome of the day. The same applies to the "watch" or much worse with the "do what you say. "
And here we come to another important issue is the question of how parents often value our children for their achievements rather than their processes and are more aware of the results of way to our little walk to reach them. Because ultimately, what we really want our son when moving away from us towards a class or give us a hug before disappearing behind the door of the house of your best friend? What do we expect from him, what purpose we prioritize the rest? Does your behavior or your experience?
"Have fun" is powerful and contains within itself an excellent starting point ("Any experience can be enjoyed"), a great confidence in our son ("I know you're going to handle well your alone there where you ") and the healthy development of all these fears that we put the child unconsciously every time we parted from him (" something horrible can happen to you or something you do fatal. ").
is also a healthy criticism against the establishment and questioned a society that seems the only thing that matters is the frivolity the proper performance and the fun is only related to leisure and off (or "misbehaving") ... never work, to fulfill personal commitments or small daily routines so happy can actually reach us.
Even beyond all that, also reflects an optimism shining, a nice attitude to life and transmits one of the best messages you can receive a child, later today can enjoy, you can be happy, have fun my complicity, can make mistakes without fear and all it on trust that will look after yourself as best you know and you behave in the best way you can.
happiness is a desire expressed no reservations ... l or truth is that I can think of better fortune.
Violeta Alcocer.
Illustration: Patricia Metola.
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