If we consider as an innate instinct that drives us to care for the pups, yes it's there. It is biology: the process of pregnancy and childbirth (or adoption process, for example, in which emotional and cognitive expectant parents take the experience as if it were a pregnancy), in women as in man major changes occur, all precisely designed to ensure their own survival and subsequent offspring. One of the most important consequences of these changes, at the biochemical level, the production is extraordinary amounts of certain hormones (the most important of these, we all know, oxytocin). A oxytocin has been called "love hormone" because actually there are already studies showing that humans have more of the same are able to prioritize the care of their offspring (or what they consider their offspring) above all and show behaviors of caring, respect and attachment to others. And this behavior is incompatible with aggressive behavior, violent, insulation and psychological mechanisms, so that we could say that despite living in the same organism, a particular biological settings associated with motherhood and fatherhood will ensure that the most cases "succeed" protective behaviors and attachment to the young above the drop.
Now, I talked about behavior and I think there is an important key. For if what is innate is the "trend" and "momentum", which I think are not innate behavior (maternal and paternal) involved in the fact care. I think so because of the incredible cultural diversity (the anthropological and historical evidence is there) related to breastfeeding and newborn care. So much instinct you have, if we have some internal resources and purchased on its own experience, the ideal-either through the experience of others, we will be very difficult to know how to care.
And it is true, desagraciadísimamente that we distance ourselves from our own nature and making the act of parenting in fact calculated and mechanical, which is to make a huge effort to connect our "gut" our "behaviors." Therefore, many parents "do what they have to do" (feeding, hold your baby, etc. ..) but they are not able to establish a healthy bond with the baby inside and out, many parents feel the powerful Call it instinct but is drowned out between acts contrary to it. Get
"connect" with yourself so that everything flows: that is the key and the first step to everything else.
And in a society that is precisely mounted to "disconnect ".... difficult task right? Violeta
Alcocer.
Illustration: Monica Calvo.
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