Friday, January 22, 2010

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, behave.



often receive emails asking for advice. It is very common for moms and dads I write, describing a situation such as "my baby has started to go to daycare / school, we have to work so I just see him, we come home late and the child is in the care of others throughout the day. The problem is that when we're together is very grumpy, we stick to ourselves and to other children, you take terrible temper tantrums and, ultimately, they misbehave and do not know what to do. "

As each case is different and every family is different, it is difficult and risky to give advice with only a brief as information lines, but I'd like to share a thought that is repeated to myself every time someone tells me that their child misbehaves.

Often, to understand what happens to the child must accept that parents sometimes do not do things right.
For example, families with two members working outside the home full time and they have no choice but to leave the kids in the care of others, are painfully aware that their children are much less time than children need.
They are aware of your circumstances and your reasons well known, suffer from not being able to reach more but "consciousness" know that they do everything they can.
And among us adults, we understand well the difficulties that exist today to reach all, we lavish words of encouragement and empathy when these situations occur. "Poor, operating, many hours away from home, I know how you feel, you understand, but obviously you can not do anything else."

Behind this reality there is always a child who knows nothing about justification: for small, miss them and need them, are the parents who "are not behaving well." The child ignores the complex social and economic reasons that drive their parents to "not" so, in their eyes, Mom and Dad are certainly not shining by their presence. Unmet emotional needs generated in the small a range of negative feelings difficult to digest that, inevitably, will raze and result in behaviors just as dark, without adequate guidance and companionship, the child is unable to manage adaptively. And then paste. Or biting. Or crying and kicking. And he misbehaves.
But nobody says, "poor, what task, so many hours without Mom and Dad, I know how you feel, you understand, it seems clear that you know your discomfort show otherwise."

When one, however big or small, "Misbehaving" with those they want, usually because they can not or do not know anything else at that time. We take our children misbehave but we have our arguments: we can not do anything!
And our children, sometimes also misbehave with us and, of course, also have their reasons: "This is all I can do given the circumstances! Not know how to give best output to my discomfort."

It's a bit unfair to expect that our failure as parents are tolerated and understood by our children more of what we tolerate and understand their own, do not you think?. Or are they perhaps being away from that one you need for twelve hours a day is less serious than hitting a kick to a door? Both behaviors
frustrated, annoyed, outraged, hurt and embarrassed the other. And in both cases, which makes them feel they can not do anything at that time.

Maybe after seeing things like this, we ask ourselves whether we are "doing everything we can." Sometimes you have to work a little more, to teach our children that the phrase "is that I do everything I can" can be very frustrating for we are dealing with and that "you can always do a little more."

Or maybe, if after a genuine reassessment of the situation we conclude that indeed we can not do more ", we encourage to change the address to our children (" You are bad ") and admit to them than us" we are not behaving well. "
For small can be very reassuring to hear that it is not the only thing that's going wrong and for us it is an opportunity to take charge of the situation (all) and go through together as parents and children who are, or so good ... not bad. Violeta

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Wednesday, January 20, 2010

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Education and boundaries, the importance of containment. About the instinct



Most of us, on our way to adulthood, forget what is containment. In our relationship, rarely exercised this capacity, however, is so important for psychic survival of children we have.

Containment is a word that perfectly describes itself: the act to cover, sustain, adapt, make room and to understand what happens to the other, in this case the child. So
described seems simple but in reality it is not: our reactions to the discomfort we often face rejection or (do not feel well) or "mirror" (I feel as bad as you). Rarely can we do the work in-depth understanding of the child's emotion without being confused with it and, from the serenity, guide to be able to resolve their conflicts (we guide, but rather altered).

child emotions and emotions of the adults are separated by a gap of complicated solution: only through an internal exercise of remembering who we were as children, we can access the emotional content that "resonate" and mobilized in the same the child line now before us.

The approach in this case, it is unidirectional, ie from parents to children and not the reverse, since it is impossible for the child not yet placed where it belongs. To really understand

the child's emotion talking about a way back, a return to the old and intense emotions of the child that one day we went. And from there, and not forgetting the adults we are today, opening a space in any room with evils that happen to small. Contain

anger, discomfort, bad behavior or anxiety of our children does not mean make room for action: it means understanding, appoint and accept, that is to accommodate the feelings that flooded, without renouncing to the fact able to draw a more appropriate management of them.

emotions is important to separate actions: the emotions, all are acceptable. They are not actions that sometimes accompanied or attitudes to others, while sometimes intense emotions and devastating, poorly managed, can lead to equally devastating relationships and lack of respect.

Our lack of exercise, adults usually face the child's misbehavior as we do between us: when someone offends us, we offend him.
Thus it is common that the identification of "appropriate" is accompanied by our own discomfort, our anger and, sometimes, our own "misconduct" (screaming, slamming doors, insults, etc. ..).

That is important to separate the child's feelings of ours: Why we get so angry when our children are angry? Why irritate us your sadness or frustration? We upset their actions but, inadvertently, end up being the mirror of the emotions that provoke, that is feeling the same way they feel (anger, rage, aggression, frustration ...), reaching a dead end because, in this case, we are the only ones capable of providing the list of solutions to conflicts. If destine the immense energy that we provide our anger to calm down, we'd get to be parents who want to be.

For that small really can learn to redirect negative emotions in positive attitudes, in turn, contribute to a better resolution of these emotions, it is essential that your guides (ie their parents) will point out the road not only with words ("this is done") but with facts, both objective (showing good behavior, that is pointing to the small limits on respect and serenity) and subjective (an internal arrangement of containment and emotional involvement in our relationship with the child). Ie: with all our being. Violeta


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Illustration: Gemma Arnal

Saturday, January 9, 2010

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around here --- HAPPY 2010 Rolito

Hello to all, and more calma.después here and enjoy the hustle of the holidays for small Navidad.Este Rolito little cushion, as we call is My daughter, who always promised a nice Forrito never time to do it, well here it is, and it is best that you liked it. Now I'm a Star pad having, to see what I can think of a great greeting


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Friday, January 1, 2010

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