supposed to progress should result in better care from us humans, but on the contrary, we have created a world hostile to us.
Hostile to adults and, of course, hostile to children and their parents from the moment of birth.
"Exaggeration? Do not believe it. I do not mean that a Rambo with a knife in his mouth is waiting for us in the delivery room door (or if?), But I can state unequivocally that unless a woman with experience and training get specific provide for itself a highly protected environment, childbirth, postpartum and parenting will be the subject of constant aggression and intereferences.
I refer not only to friends and family that make having a child in a discussion forum, or the grandmothers and grandfathers who are reluctant to leave their children in the hands of ownership and the ability to decide for themselves, but also institutions enjoyed the right to assist women, men and children who have just become family.
The point is that compared to the institutionalization of birth and the supposed benefits this should lead to parents and children, what we find is parents terribly helpless and unprotected against conflicting views and actions on what is "best for the baby."
And the new parents usually live the most important moment of your life with confusion, fear and doubt: that is, in a state of alert and defense that definitely makes the process of recovery and adaptation their new state.
From sabotage (consciously or unconsciously) to breastfeeding by physicians, nurses and midwives from for the advice on basic postpartum care for newborns, following such issues as personal as how each person decides to bond with your child ... in fact there are many but no information seems really reliable and little comfort to new parents.
the contrary, many of these "help" generate thousands of new questions, strange feelings and helplessness. Not that I'm particularly negative, the outlook is quite bleak, especially because, paradoxically, that aggression is disguised exact opposite.
For example, new mothers are intended "Protect" their children as follows: "I'll take a while to get some rest" or "I'll calm that you are nervous," brings him to give me a bibe that you can get some sleep " oh, poor thing, this baby is going to destroy the nipples. "
Well, like to say that mothers should not protect their children, or children from their mothers. Motherhood is hard, but they are amply prepared, the women are. That should not be treated as idiots just because they do not have all the information, that are new. What not to do nothing for them if they do not ask that, to do something, we can make the meal, an errand or clean the house, so they can spend more time with their children if they want.
should not tell them what to do, since they no longer are daughters, mothers, and all you need is to understand your baby and other them, understand how breastfeeding works, what the puerperium and what it means to be born.
should not say "take your baby when he cries," but explain why babies cry and what they need. Once done, they, the parents, you know what to do.
No one size fits all, so not worth all the tips.
Each family that comes specific listening needs a space in the hearts and minds of one another to bother to know them, this new baby, their hopes, their expectations, their lifestyles . Someone to accompany them contained and in that way, help them find their own answers, to understand them in their most profound questions. That allows them to make their decisions, to enthrone himself in his new role, practice without fear their new status as parents, without being judged.
With so much confusion many associations invited to do what your heart tells you and follow your instincts. Many others invite us to read and manual methods in which we find very specific patterns of behavioral management of different situations. And others, the best, we are encouraged to link up with other parents with similar experience, or support networks through which to obtain comfort, information, and catharsis. I am rooting for the latter.
Violeta Alcocer.
Illustration: the book "Safe Baby Handling Tips", David & Kelly Sopp. 
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