I keep reading and hear something that I feared for some time and I guess I will end by becoming fashionable as well: how to teach your baby to talk.
confuse stimulation methods and we started to train our children things that happen without any intervention other than the natural parent-child interaction-environment.
Why should this overacting on each and every one of the facts of development? Really worries me.
I have already commented on some occasions that today's parents maintain an unhealthy desire (to have) to get all the medals, in fact, correspond to small. Children "eat us" good, bad or average. "We took" the pacifier, the bibe and the diaper (and full of pride we say, while the child looks at us as if he had nothing to do with it) and "pull get to sleep" or teach him to sleep "to leave us little calm 12 of the 24 hours live on our side (that is to say, because of the remaining 12 it is possible that together we are really only 2 or 3).
any case, made so simple and natural as eating, sleeping, sucking or control their bowels and not their own children, but their proud parents, who have read a book or in the worst have followed the "popular methodology." I wonder if, after the need to attribute the achievements of others (those of our children) do not hide an obsessive need for control ... or perhaps stolen childhood itself, the very need for approval, visibility, to make things right.
are very legitimate needs, we all have, but not at the expense of the invisibility of our children, please.
However, as the above issues been debated for years, positioning, testing and error (or hitting). For months made a mental review of the few achievements that you are the child to claim for itself and so a priori I could think of two: the language and walking.
However, concerns have begun to appear on the subject: mothers and fathers who worry (much) because the teacher on duty will suggest a visit to a speech therapist because his child three years do not pronounce or speak as well is to wait. " Families who suspect a delay in language development because their small, two did not speak as did his brother. These families know that the language is much more than words: they know that the child is a code language most often not verbal, which can be decrypted only by staying in connection with the child.
started reading techniques to "stimulate language, exercises to tone the speech apparatus, and various methods for our small talk and speak out" as appropriate "ages and we have established for this purpose (two years and should talk like parrots). We want our children are as we say they are children. And we want to always be "like everyone else."
If we knew how dangerous and irresponsible which is the tendency to "normalization" and "uniformity" that we are seeing in these years, we would think twice before phobic avoid anything that represents individuality, uniqueness, the particularity and personal pace in the growing child.
differences enrich us and strengthen our self-esteem, otherwise we mackerel and subject us to enter standards shared by only a few: the uniform condemnation of people (children) to fail personnel, the sticker on the poor valuation and, worse, express renunciation of what one really is and how it really is.
To let you all know: kids do not need to teach them to speak, we need to let them talk .... and they listen. Spend time with them, read them stories, sing their songs, they whisper in my ear, I do raspberries. You put words to his feelings and our love, affection, anger, rage. Soften us with their mistakes and fall exhausted his accomplishments.
Because the words coming out of his mouth, whether many or few, write the book of life, not ours. And let me
irony, but when passing fashion to "teach to talk," I'm sure of one thing: hundreds of parents (the ones who cared for the child did not speak) will go to bookstores and nervous queries asking "And now, how do you shut up?". Violeta
Alcocer.
Illustration: Tan Shau
